Vocabulary Damage Control



“But the human tongue is a beast that few can master. It strains constantly to break out of its cage, and if it is not tamed, it will run wild and cause you grief.” writer – Unknown…

Scenario 1
Everyday numerous individuals commit countless harmful acts; to the degree where many are left clueless as to whether the initial decision held premeditated intent or the incidents are simply occurring through mere coincidence. On a more in-depth note; the groups of Spectators during these incidents either get involved and have no clue as to what they’re stepping into informatively or just view these incidents from the outskirts in cast their own personal judgments as to what they believe is happening or should happen. If there are 1,000,001 people viewing 1 incident at 1 time, then the food will have at least 2,000,002 possible case scenarios of what might have happened, but there will still be no definitive proof of the truth. I remember that Abraham H Maslow once said “I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.” That statement might not sound like it goes with the subject that we’re speaking about here, but I will return to that point later.

It is my firm belief that every individual in this world has their own story to share if they choose to. We’re not talking about the stories that most will subconsciously fantasize, in order to get others to believe as much as they want to themselves. We’re referring to the real life stories; the ones that most of us would kill too hide and still look in the mirror only to see and we say to ourselves “Damn, that’s really me!” These stories are the prologues and inclining defining moments of our storms that we have faced. They are the cornerstones of why we stand still in the present. The can’t be written, doctored, or water down by anyone else in this world. This is why Reinventing the wheel should be forbidden, because achieving a smooth roll can only happen from one shape that we know of.  However; the role of sarcastic theologians would say at this point that the option of driving and flying are at their disposal. Since I’ve reached the end of this paragraph, I’ll attempt to use both instances subliminally in the next paragraph myself for the sake of opening the floor to the exercise of Vocabulary Damage Control.

Scenario 2
Recently someone close to me was informatively made aware of some disturbing information posted about their bio, concerning a seriously sensitive subject for many others out here, who have suffered by the hands of what this topic represents. Upon the aftermath of this information being shared to me; I had to sit back and review how the subject alone almost propelled me to lash back out in return for what was assumed. The individual was assumed to have been a victim of domestic violence. After calming my own spirit; I decided to focus on the actual subject and create a contrast view of it in details. What does domestic violence actually mean? Almost everyone reading this believes that they have the answer to this one here right now. That would be because this phrase has become a trend that is loosley used. So bear with my free thinking mind, as I break this down real quick. 


1. Relating to the running of a home or to family relations.

2. Existing or occurring inside a particular country; not foreign or international.

3. A product not made abroad. (It should be safe for me to say that out of these two adjectives and one noun definition that none of these things speak what anyone was assuming at first for this word.)

1. Behavior involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something.

2. Strength of emotion or an unpleasant or destructive natural force.

3. The unlawful exercise of physical or emotional force; or intimidation by the exhibition of such force. (As we can see, this is another word with various dynamics to choose from.) 

Society has been plagued with this confusing believe that physical harm is only what defines violence. I am not writing this to take the sting off of what others may have gone through, but I was taught that the greatest weapon any human being could have resides in their tongue. We can be beat, stabbed, overtaken, burnt, dropped, physically molested, struck by heavy and speeding objects, and shot. The one commonality that all of these things have or that we were made to heal physically, but let’s get back to the tongue. The Velvet Rope created in our mouth was given a purpose to do one of three directives. Those would be to either save, create, or destroy something. 

The world 🌎 is littered with Big Dreamers (rightfully so), but most lack the sense of deploying a dedicated guideline as to how will achieve making their dreams evolve into the path towards their true purpose awaiting them. Most of them are to impatient in sticking to the struggling process everyone around them must face a well. Not one of us can say that we weren’t tempted to take the shortcuts presented every so often and most of us did at a dire price. None of these decisions began with any other physical actions needed, other than the parting of our lips and the useless misuse of spewing words flying from them. We might have even accomplished all that we so fervently desired, but at the cost of what and who? I say this to shed some light on scenario 1 and the statement left intentionally hanging. 

We can undoubtedly mature to become either the offender or the accuser in life and never think for one second whether our actions bring violating ramifications to others. 

We can also mature to the degree of consciousness that allows us to consider how some of the smallest concerns have devastated us in some off the greatest ways. 

The point here is to consider wisely each move we make, plus remember that it’s not always about the things we do to fast track our way up that proverbial step ladder of success. Sometimes it’s left lingering within the words we speak. We should as adults learn to refrain from being so Misinformed. 

Only then will Vocabulary Damage Control be harnessed.

J. R.